It may be true that first impressions are largely determined by outward appearances, but how is it that the average-looking girl is voted homecoming queen, while the class beauty is passed over?  What makes everyone want to be near her? She has a magnetism that attracts people; she’s memorable. When navigating the dating scene, being remembered is key to getting a second look and keeping someone’s attention.

To be memorable, you have to be authentic. There’s nothing memorable about a person who is just like everyone else. If others find you so comfortable to be around that they want to know you better, your relationships will be more plentiful and life will be more interesting. Your career may benefit when you put an emphasis on being more memorable and are willing to go against the mainstream.

Some people have characteristics or personalities that make people remember them. But even those who aren’t blessed at birth with memorable traits can develop an attitude and way of living that can make them more memorable. Some of that magic can be learned.

Self-acceptance
Memorable people are unique, know it and embrace it. If you’re embarrassed by your own quirkiness, you can’t expect others to find it endearing. Your ability to accept who you are, without reservation, brings opportunities for other people to truly get to know you. Discover specific traits that make you stand out in a crowd and capitalize on them.

Once you acknowledge and accept your uniqueness, it’s time to develop it. Many people do just the opposite and attempt to eliminate, diminish or refine the traits that make them different, which unfortunately negates the very thing most people hope for - to be remembered. If you’re too willing to conform to society, you’ll be seen as a simple part of the whole and not a complex, confident individual.

Realize the risks
Not everyone will find you memorable. Jealousy and envy may bring rejection from others and not the acceptance we all hope for, but that’s a risk you’ll have to take, if you want to be your true self. Just remember that it’s only collateral damage and that those people would never have been accepting, even if you were willing to conform to fit in.

Let it shine!
The people we find memorable are able to express the full range of their personalities. They never repress or censor their uniqueness to fit in or to avoid standing out from the crowd; their genuineness is obvious. Say what you want to say, but graciously; do what you want and show more of who you are. Others will notice and remember.